2019 has been a hard year. Very hard. There are many reasons, but chief amongst them is the yardstick that I set myself at the start of the year. I look back at this and see that I wrote about:
- being ill – check, that happened to me with the evil flu I’ve not had in yonks
- Family members being ill – yup, mum is struggling with arthritis, Nan has had another episode of illness, dad is looking frail, J is struggling with his things but won’t talk about it…
- Financial independence – baby steps to commence? Haha, that didn’t happen.
- Death? Yes there was plenty of that, including looking into a dying man’s eyes.
- Family members up to no good – yes, the main one here being the revelation of my oldest nephew getting his so called girlfriend pregnant. Oh, and the baby has club foot.
- Brothers continuing to struggle – absolutely
- No new hobbies or activities or getting out and about to do stuff. But no surprise there. Just work work work.
The hard thing is that, while some of that was expected, some of it was not. And it’s the unexpected that makes life challenging or interesting. I sit here now thinking “where did the last week go?”. I have no answer. This time last week I’d started work on tidying the office ready to go away. But I knew the time would fly by, as it’s now basically over. However, I expected this, so I’m not remotely surprised.
- The deaths: J’s client and friend, several of our clients, several distant but not that distant family members.
- The financial issues – the sheer depth of the revelations earlier this year that J had got himself into were a real shock, and a hammer blow to trust between us. It’s not recovered, and I still think about it. It has definitely affected my approach to him, and I’m now far more controlling, which is not an aspect of my personality that exactly needs encouraging.
- Our relationship has been strained, and I feel it’s much harder to talk to him now, let alone any physical involvement.
- Then there was the politics, a turbulent year, filled with stress, anger, resentment and disappointment.
But it wasn’t all bad. I’m still here, so are my family, then there’s the businesses, which are doing OK considering the inevitable decline in getting things repaired. Though we had a very quiet run up to Christmas, which was very unusual, I’m sure it’ll be fine in the New Year…
So it’s not a total wipeout, but I’m afraid that it has to be classed as a Bad year. That means it’s two in a row. Something is wrong. And the fact that we’re all getting old and I’m losing my hair at the top now is just too much.
Goodbye 2019. I won’t miss you.